If you are always right something is wrong
By Dr. Moshe Zloof
Have you ever wondered why some people who experience traumatic incidents like a serious accident, have no recollection of that event and sometimes even develop mild amnesia? The reason for this phenomenon, is that the brain has an internal protective mechanism blocking these nightmarish memories from reaching your consciousness until the time when the person is ready emotionally to deal with the situation, otherwise he/she may sink into a deep depression with perhaps some suicidal thoughts.
Denial: To a lesser degree when a person is insecure, feels guilty about past memories, has low self esteem, and believes he is a failure, the unconscious mind again creates a shield of denial to protect the person from sinking into further anxieties and depression. This person therefore tries to be ‘always right’; always pointing fingers at others for his/her mi stakes and becomes difficult to live and communicate with.
‘Chronic denial’ leads to being right all the time, even for trivial issues, like an acquaintance I know that tries to argue the color red is superior over all other colors.
Advice:
If you encounter such a person being your spouse, a son a daughter, or a colleague at work don’t try to argue with no avail, but instead try to raise their self esteem and confidence level by praising and complimenting them when they do something right. However therapy may be needed for severe cases.
For the person who is always right: If you happen to be the person who is always right, trying to always defend your territory, ask yourself does your argument have a real logical merit or is it that you must be right at any cost. One technique we use in workshops is to prepare the person to admit that he is wrong on trivial issues, reciting the sentence: 'yes you are right', 'yes you are right', and eventually one will realize that people are going to be friendlier to them.
By Dr. Moshe Zloof
Have you ever wondered why some people who experience traumatic incidents like a serious accident, have no recollection of that event and sometimes even develop mild amnesia? The reason for this phenomenon, is that the brain has an internal protective mechanism blocking these nightmarish memories from reaching your consciousness until the time when the person is ready emotionally to deal with the situation, otherwise he/she may sink into a deep depression with perhaps some suicidal thoughts.
Denial: To a lesser degree when a person is insecure, feels guilty about past memories, has low self esteem, and believes he is a failure, the unconscious mind again creates a shield of denial to protect the person from sinking into further anxieties and depression. This person therefore tries to be ‘always right’; always pointing fingers at others for his/her mi stakes and becomes difficult to live and communicate with.
‘Chronic denial’ leads to being right all the time, even for trivial issues, like an acquaintance I know that tries to argue the color red is superior over all other colors.
Advice:
If you encounter such a person being your spouse, a son a daughter, or a colleague at work don’t try to argue with no avail, but instead try to raise their self esteem and confidence level by praising and complimenting them when they do something right. However therapy may be needed for severe cases.
For the person who is always right: If you happen to be the person who is always right, trying to always defend your territory, ask yourself does your argument have a real logical merit or is it that you must be right at any cost. One technique we use in workshops is to prepare the person to admit that he is wrong on trivial issues, reciting the sentence: 'yes you are right', 'yes you are right', and eventually one will realize that people are going to be friendlier to them.
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